Confidence and the mind!

“I am not confident enough to achieve my goal!”

Is this something that you say to yourself, when you feel worried over the goal that you want to achieve?

Ask yourself, when you feel a lack of confidence in your aim, “Why did I think about this goal in the first place.” There must have been slight grounds for some belief in your future dreams, unless it was a very unobtainable thought or daydream.
If you feel, however, that you might be able to achieve your dreams through proper training or experience, then start it and build up your confidence by making sufficient preparations. Stop talking about, not having enough confidence and just go out there and do it.

If you feel that you still cannot do this, then drop the aim and take another more suitable one that you can follow with courage!

The trouble with most people who lack confidence is that they fail to take the action recommended and worry themselves stupid over the problem. They turn the problem over in their minds, until they become sick and tired.
They focus in the wrong direction and on the wrong object, namely themselves instead of outwards, towards their goal.
Worse still, is that their focus is on their own weaknesses and defects, instead of their abilities and their past successes.

The answer is to turn your attention to the object ahead of you and focus on the activities that will bring you step by step to achieve your aims.
You have to go after your cake, before you can eat it!

Think of you aim as the best cure for lack of confidence. Let it possess and inspire you. Think of all that it will mean to you and your family if you go through with it.


If something does go wrong, you can still respect yourself and others will respect you. You will have also got some experience, which will help you for the next effort.

Persistent confidence and effort will eventually win out and you will achieve your dream.

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Are you stuck in a Rut...Aims,Change, Goals, Relationships, Mind?

Most of us, as we travel through life have acquired set beliefs and ideas about ourselves, about our jobs, our religion, and perhaps our morals.

When we acquire a set belief about something, this is normally when our mental development has stopped. Our minds become closed to any new ideas on the subject and we refuse to be changed or modified.

Although we may regard ourselves as being open minded, most of us can become fixed and narrow minded in our views. Unconsciously we have closed the doors of reason.

When a growth is so gradual that we do not realise it is happening, this form of a self-arrested development is the most difficult to give up.
When we are accused of, being narrow minded we strenuously deny it and object to the implications that we are not open minded.

Examples of this can be the salesperson who is fixated on having to achieve certain levels of sales. The worker who would have no desire to go any further in his job, because he feels secure. The person that runs a factory is content to go on running his factory exactly the same way as he has always run it.

Another example used to be the housewife who marries and places herself at a expected vocational level and remains throughout her life a fixated house wife. Luckily lots of women have been liberated from this role and tries to manage and juggle careers and children. I feel this statement is certainly a comment for future debate!

There are many other examples of people stuck in ruts, unhappy in their job, relationship and situations, but are too afraid to move on.

What is important is your attitude towards your work, and the effect it has on your entire mental life.

This is why it is so important to find your aim or goal in life. The problem is that it is usually this aim that is so difficult to establish and these difficulties will be covered next time.

WHAT IS YOUR TASTE, TALENT OR ABILITY? ...Mind, Relationships, Change, Aims,

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